It’s been a long, tiring and busy day but filled with some real life experiences that’s got me thinking as I type this out for your viewing;but before I go on, I’d like to let you know I’ve decided to name this section : “Just ‘U’ & ‘I’”.
In my pursuit of self discovery, I have come to identify some things about me that I’m beginning to think are central to who I am. I like to be very open with my feelings; honesty, I think, works for me – no hide and seek; that’s the way I am. What you see is what you get (maybe that‘s a plus or a minus, that‘s a topic for another day).
However, I’ve also observed that self – knowledge without self mastery is outright foolishness, naivety and may lead to self destruction.
In here, we’d discuss it just as it is. I don’t feel pressed to ‘preach’ in this forum but I’m burdened to share a few tactics that I know works in handling some issues. Need I remind us that I’m a woman and I believe we’d find this forum helpful.
The topic we’d be deliberating on today is “How to take care of your SELF”
Growing up as a teenager had its thrills and challenges, despite that I didn’t have the luxury of having my biological father around for long, I still had a daddy figure around who always told me in parting: “Take good care of yourself”, at that time, I didn’t understand the scope and depth of such words, maybe if I had earlier enough I’d have been better equipped to doing so as the years rolled off. Perhaps, to a large extent I felt that taking care of myself had more to do with staying away from boys, facing my studies and maybe keeping my emotions together; now I know the latter and a lot more would be more like it.
The third and most important alphabet in the word “YOU” is ‘U’, take it or not, but that’s the truth. Your family, friends, colleagues, teammates, etc, even your neighbors would not get the best of your person if you fail in that duty of self care. Hear me, you don’t have to fail, take ill or be hurt before caring for you.
Here are some practical steps to TAKING CARE :
1) Love yourself for exactly what you are right now, the good, the bad and the ugly. This is required for a good self esteem. The ability to see your strengths, faults and weaknesses as what they are objectively, knowing you are human helps with self acceptance ,with the knowledge that there’s room for growth.
2) Treat your body right, eat right food and the proper amount ;this include staying off junks as much as possible, not stuffing down your throat anything from any source regardless of the hygiene conditions under which it’s prepared or your eating environment( you might think it doesn’t count but I assure you it validates your sense of your identity), exercise( I‘ve read that exercise or a good work-out does a lot in ‘working – out’ stress, aside the benefit of aiding your fitness), adequate rest/ sleep, etc
3) Stay away from people that don’t see any good in you and spend more time with those who challenge you to grow, inspire and celebrate you.
4)Work around your topmost priorities. This requires strength of focus and each goal accomplished is validating your sense of self worth.
5)Protect or guard your “you’ time jealously. Line out your space and secure your boundaries. Maybe another way to put this is “ keep your space”
6) Stay away from compromising situations or relationships.
7)Indulge in a refreshing, life-enhancing activity that you’ve always wished for. Save for it if you have to. Sometimes it doesn’t even have to be an expensive treat or adventure, it can be as simple as learning to skate and actually doing so, going to the cinema, trying out some new recipes. going for a massage or body scrub, etc. It’s up to you to determine that activity that gives an extra spark to your life, that adds value to your overall existence.
8) Breathe…..just breathe, take it in and let it out. Sometimes, that might seem like the most simple but too many times, especially amidst life’s pressure, all you should just do is take some time out to “breathe” and tell yourself “I can handle this too“. ‘I was borne for this“, “ I can fix this too“, “this too shall come – to pass’, etc. Words like this empower you, give you a mental shift from a victim, being cornered- mentality, to being a master of circumstances. They help you maintain objectivity and build resilience, and with time the required resources you need to handle as many challenge as possible, as each challenge bring a new level of growth.
9) Nurture your vital relationships. For example, your relationship with your parents and siblings. These people will always be a part of your life, needless to say that it aids your stability. You don’t want a strained relationship with the most important people in your life.
10) The last and most important, learn to go on your knees in prayer. The greatest position of strength you can ever take in life is ‘on your knees’, before the Lord, pouring out the whole of yourself…He knows it all anyway, but talking to Him about it confirms your dependence and yielding to Him and acknowledges His place and will above all else. Taking it to the Lord in prayer keeps you in charge and submitting to Him places you in a position for His intervention, rather than leaning on your judgment. There are times I am tense and resolute about what I’d do about a situation, the HR management side of me says, “I deserve to be treated better“, the rational side of me says, “I’m worth much more than this“, my emotions say “I don’t have to put up with this“, my senses say “give them back a taste of their own medicine”, and while I’m at it and venting before the Lord in conversation, sometimes I’m crying, not necessarily at the situation but how my desire to please the Lord and the love of God constrains me….gosh! Does it hurt? You bet!, the Holy Spirit quietly whispers God’s views about such things like “what about the scriptures that say love them that hate you, pray for those who spitefully use you…”, etc, I tell you, even at that, it’s a tug of war. I still place up my arguments before the Lord .Talking to the Lord simply says “I trust you, totally”.
I hope that this makes your day and helps you become more aware of how much you need to ‘TAKE CARE’. With love from my heart to you, I’m wishing you the best of this week.